Everyone likes to hear those three words “I Love You” when it is coming from the right person. It is what some women long for and can take pleasure from every time they hear it. Being able to tell her I love you is great, but it is even better when you know how to show it. Words without action can be empty. Many men can fix their mouths to say whatever a woman wants to hear. When it comes time to back it up with actions, then you can see who truly holds true to the words they spoke. So for men who truly do love their woman, the challenge is finding out how to properly show “I love you” in a way that she will receive it. You have to learn her “love language” because doing what you think is expressing love may not always line up with what she receives as love. Many women can have different languages, but here are some things I feel are universal and will at least get you moving in the right direction.
Be Considerate
One of the best ways to show “I love you” is to show her how considerate you are of her and her needs. Little things like asking her if she needs you to get anything for her on the way to the house shows you are thinking about her. If you walk in and see her cleaning, or doing any labor, asking her if she needs some help (or don’t even ask, just go help) would be a something most women would appreciate. It can also be a turn on for her, and that is definitely a good thing. Getting in tune with her enough to where you can tell when something is wrong and you actually show concern also helps. You can buy your woman all kinds of gifts, and that is cool, but it is the little things that can really make her feel like that “I love you” is for real.
Keeping her in the loop
Nothing says “I love you” like your woman having to hear through someone else where you are or what business you have been getting yourself into (obviously I am being sarcastic). I know I spoke on Independent Woman Syndrome in an earlier post, but some guys have an “I Am My Own Man Syndrome.” Once in a relationship you have to be willing to be open with your woman and make sure she is the first to know about your dealings and whereabouts. Making decisions on your own especially when they affect the both of you can contribute to negative things to come. When she has to constantly hear things from other sources it makes her feel much less secure about the relationship and it makes her wonder what else you could be doing behind her back. It isn’t about “checking in” or being “punked”, it is about creating a more emotionally secure environment for her which definitely says “I love you”.
Take pride in your woman
You really want to show her “I love you” well don’t act funny when you are with her and an “ex” comes around. Don’t hesitate to introduce her to friends, family, or anyone that sees you with her for the first time. Don’t go from being so loving and affectionate in private but then acting like you barely know her when you have company around. She is paying attention to all of these things and even if she goes a long with it, she would be much happier if you made the proper adjustments. Your love should not be contingent on who is around, because if it is then you may need to ask yourself “do I really love her”. Showing pride and making her feel like she is the #1 woman in your life will go a long way towards saying “I love you”.
There are more universal tips but this is a good place to start. There will be different ways to show “I love you” for different women, and you should take the time to get a deeper understanding of how to tap into the love language that your woman speaks. Love is a beautiful thing, but just saying it isn’t enough. You have to show it to mean it, and always be prepared to back up your words. Put a smile on your woman’s face today and do something the really shows her “I love you”.
35 thoughts on “3 Ways To Show Her “I Love You””
Great advice and he did all of these.
Thank you Angela, and I have no comment on the rest of your statement lol just going to wait for an update : ).
Glad to see that this blog is giving tips to men, all the blogs I seem to have read from you seem to be directed at women some of which is true but the way communicated I believe too harsh, not easy being woman lol 🙂
Actually I have some other posts like this, which I just noticed you found “You Can’t Change Her, You Have To Embrace Her” : ). It just seems that people don’t say much about the nice post, they respond more to the post that seem to hit a little harder. Trust me, I know it is not easy for women out there but I always strive to speak what I believe is the truth. Sometimes in a very sensitive tone, and sometimes with a more “bold” tone lol : ).
Yes there was one other blog which was good, I just think that when you write blogs aimed towards women your tone could be gentler. When I read them I thought why is he such an expert? It is important to speak truth I think that should be done in love. The term I am thinking is less is more, you can say less but that does more. I am interested to know are you a psychologist, how are an expert in relationships?
I agree with you, because I always tell clients and people in general how we have to avoid coming off as if we are attacking someone if we want others to be more receptive to what we are saying. With my personal life and with my coaching it is easier to implement that, but due to the dynamics of a blog it gets a little more difficult. If I’m tough with the men and only gentle with the women, then some can perceive that as me having a bias towards women. That will in turn make the men less receptive. Not to mention as I stated earlier, the gentle posts don’t get much movement. The stronger toned post get a lot of movement. So I have to seek out a balance that makes the post strong enough to grab attention, yet loving enough to allow more people to be receptive to it. If you look at “12 Reasons” for women, by combining the post it has that balance (somewhat lol). Unfortunately it was too long, I had to separate it and in that separation Part 1 comes off as just being harsh. As for being an expert, I am a relationship coach and I am currently getting a Masters in Marriage & Family Therapy. I have coached many couples and singles, as well as conducted workshops to help many improve their relationships. I also have a book out titled “How To Get A Married Woman To Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband”. At the end of the day, I really accredit my knowledge and understanding of relationships to GOD. He blessed me with a gift to effectively help a lot of people and has given me the tools needed to serve my purpose.
I have The 5 Love Languages on Kindle. I so need to read the Dang thing. On your post – love how you express the importance in showing (not just stating) your love. When my hubby of 15 years thinks of me when making decisions (and when he doesn’t) it certainly reminds me of his love for me. And when we were days from a divorce last year all of these things you mentioned here is what brought me back. While we are working through a few big issues, all of the small things outweigh them & let me know that he does love me & that our relationship was worth fighting for.
Thank you very much and that is beautiful, I am happy to hear that you and your husband were able get things back on track. Definitely read that book, it has a lot of great information in there. Also consider reading (both you and your husband) “How To Get A Married Woman To Have Sex With You…If You’re Her Husband”. It is a book I wrote and I am certain you will also find some great stuff in there to continue to move your relationship in the right direction.
I saw the title on Twitter & was supposed to check it out. Will do this weekend.
I have The 5 Love Languages on Kindle. I so need to read the Dang thing. On your post – love how you express the importance in showing (not just stating) your love. When my hubby of 15 years thinks of me when making decisions (and when he doesn’t) it certainly reminds me of his love for me. And when we were days from a divorce last year all of these things you mentioned here is what brought me back. While we are working through a few big issues, all of the small things outweigh them & let me know that he does love me & that our relationship was worth fighting for.
I beleive that words without actions can be empty and I also know that words with the opposite action can confuse and mess up your future with that person.. Please dont forget about LISTENING AND COMMUNITCATION. Sometimes if a man/woman has to ask themselves if they love that person it can mean that they really don’t in the first place. I really agree with the different Love Languages in women..:-)~smile~
Most definitely listening and communicating is very important. That deserves a post all in itself : )
Yep. I JUST tweeted, “When your actions speak loud enough, you don’t have to say a word”. It’s all about the tangible to me. You can “say” anything. But it’s when I can see or feel the actions behind your words that makes the difference. You need to teach a class. Yep.
Thanks Candice : ) maybe one day I will get to do that.
vary nice, but it works both ways,for woman to follow as well.
thank you, and as always this is true. I just typically address one gender at a time but you will eventually see a post that speaks to what the women can do, and even though you can apply these same things I always try to make it a little different.
As always Thx for sharing!
: ) Anytime, glad you enjoyed it.
If Most of us Women Paid Attention to His Actions, Instead of His Words then We Would Spare Ourselves Much Disappoinments!!!! Good Advice!!!!
Absolutely, and thank you : )
Indeed.
The keeping your spouse in the loop is a new one I’ve heard but considering it, it’s really important as well. Good article
So true, and yes actions speaks louder than words.
time to try dis.thanks steph
How many people have lost the love?!
Wow I'm falling inlove with this… Wish some1 would also read it and take those tips to heart.. Thank you
I would love 2 send this 2 my BF. Is there a way 4 me 2 do that?
Sure! Pretty picture friend! Maybe he will see this?
Barry…he doesnt have FB
Truth.
Stephan! I love your way you absolutely thankful and thought may God bless you
Wow! Yes take pride in your woman. Love this post.
Very true. Take pride in her because she's pay attention to it all.
I have been all of these things and more. One person you must never forget to love Is yourself. Nothing worse than presenting these gifts to people who no matter how many ways you express your love will ultimately take advantage of you. This goes for both sexes.
Maybe if my boyfriend and I would have seen this in the beginning of our relationship then we might still be together. Just a maybe! I'm just hoping the next man I connect with has some deep insight on how to treat a woman the right way!